Attachment problems?

Today, when I picked up S from preschool, she walked out of her class with "the look." It's the sad, heartbroken look she gets just before she begins to cry. The assistant teacher was standing at the door and hadn't noticed the tears when S walked past her. S came to me, I asked what was wrong and S began to cry. I looked at the assistant teacher who was looking at the head teacher, who must have been signaling to her from across the room. She then turned to me and asked if I would come into the classroom. The children were still filing out and S and I squeezed into the room and walked to the back where the head teacher was standing. I again asked what happened, but this time to the teacher and she gave me this look while slighly shaking her head back and forth. She proceeded to say that S kept making faces at another child during snack time and the teacher had S come sit by her. She went on to say that S continues to grab or take things that she wants out of others' hands and constantly pushes the other children's buttons. She ended with telling me that "S is just tough, she's a tough child."

Well, if that didn't get me in a tizzy, then I don't know what would. Yes, I understand that S has some problems that we are attempting to deal with. My husband and I have been trying to teach S how to share, proper behaviour, and basic social skills. But I guess it is time for professional help. I have contacted our social worker from our agency and she will be giving me names of therapists who have experience dealing with these types of issues. I just want her to be happy.

As far as the teachers are concerned, I'm not 100% sure that S should be in this preschool. I was very happy when my boys and Katie attended but for S, I don't think it is working. I do not think the teachers have the capacity, time nor education to deal with the types of issues in which some adoptive children may experience. The teachers have all been great, but perhaps it is time to move on. I need to do what is best for S and I have an entire summer to think about it. I would love to send her to a school filled with adoptive children but I know there is nothing like that around here.

Big B is so upset with the teacher that he doesn't want S to go back anymore this year. She only has a few days left and one of them is the end of year show. That could be really cute...or it could be a complete disaster.

I took some pictures of S and I think that they turned out great. She's beautiful and I wanted to share them with you. I've also thrown in one or two of my boys as well.

Enjoy,

J